“To recognize that my upsets come from myself is the first step to remedying them.” —Anthony De Mello
In his classic book, Man’s Search for Meaning, Viktor Frankl wrote, “When we can no longer change a situation, we are challenged to change ourselves… Everything can be taken from a human but one thing: the last of the human freedoms—to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one’s own way.”
No situation and nobody can make us feel or do anything. Viktor Frankl showed us that. We always have a choice to react or not. For those who claim that unleashing their ire feels good and have no intention of changing, that’s another matter. Perhaps it feels good until things get out of control, somebody gets hurt, or the damage cannot be rectified.
A preventive and more mature approach is making a U-turn and practicing the 90-second rule before the damage is done. Scientists say that constant reaction to things beyond our control not only creates misery but it also shortens our lives. Chronic reactivity creates a stressful biochemical boomerang that weakens the immune system and increases the likelihood of a heart attack or stroke.
According to Taylor, from a neurological perspective, we have the power to choose moment by moment how we want to be in the world.
Find out how HERE
With the Harvard Business Review, author David Kessler shared his thoughts on why it’s important to acknowledge the grief you may be feeling, how to manage it, and how he believes we will find meaning in it.
Perhaps you haven’t named what you’re feeling as grief, and more than one kind of grief, but give this a read and see what you think.
The loss of normalcy; the fear of economic toll; the loss of connection. This is hitting us and we’re grieving. Collectively.
We’re also feeling anticipatory grief. Anticipatory grief is that feeling we get about what the future holds when we’re uncertain. There is a storm coming. There’s something bad out there. With a virus, this kind of grief is so confusing for people. Our primitive mind knows something bad is happening, but you can’t see it. This breaks our sense of safety. I don’t think we’ve collectively lost our sense of general safety like this. Individually or as smaller groups, people have felt this. We are grieving on a micro and a macro level.
Read the full post HERE
In the midst of this catastrophe, you may experience disruptions of your sleep, appetite, work, fitness, and family life. Some days, you will wake up in a fog. You will wander around in your pajamas, and when you look up from your phone, it will be 3 p.m. You’ll have accomplished nothing and have missed your breakfast and lunch. Work and family commitments will be clawing at you, and you may start to panic.
Take heart. It is absolutely possible to salvage a disastrous day, even if you are in a crippling multiday slump. It is inevitable that everyone will have both good and bad days over the course of this pandemic, and it is absurd to compare the peaks and troughs. The sensible approach is to ride the wave, and work cooperatively with the psychological challenges that each day presents.
Read the full article HERE
Eileen Pease from Dynamic Learning has rounded up a set of practical “how to” articles.
|How to Make Learning Stick
Anybody at work is well aware of the constant need to learn new information and new skills. But our ability to make that learning stick is held back by a number of office conditions and mythical beliefs. You can improve your ability to learn. Find out how.
How to Remember Names
Because so many people have difficulty remembering names, your effort will be much appreciated and the people you meet will tend to think you’re caring and intelligent. You will also be improving your ability to use your memory more effectively. Find out how.
How to Change Perfectionistic Thinking
Striving for perfection (which is to strive for something that is impossible to achieve) causes us constant self-criticism, endless hard work, long, long hours, and the feeling that no matter how much we try, what we do is just not good enough. Strive for excellence instead. Find out how.
How to Sleep Well Every Night
Skimping on sleep has a high price. It has been linked to increased risk of diabetes, coronary heart disease, strokes, weight gain, and Alzheimer’s. Well-planned strategies are essential to having a deep, restorative sleep you can count on, night after night. Find out how.
Dalplex is launching Round 2 of their Move More @ Home Challenge that complements their at-home fitness videos, kids activities book, and Physioclinic supports. All designed to make it easier for you to boost the health and fitness of you and your family.
Check out what they have available here.
Consider customized support from our Employee and Family Assistance Program (EFAP) at workhealthlife.com or 1-800-387-4765.
Note: The resources mentioned are designed for those working in administrative positions.
If you feel pressured about your workload, there is a Reflection and Discussion Tool (with MyDal login) available to help you prepare, and have, conversations to find ways forward.
In addition, this post from LifeWorks highlights tips and benefits of discussing workload with your manager:
Talking with your Manager About Your Workload
If your workload sometimes feels like too much, you’re not alone. Studies have shown that many people feel their workloads have increased due in part to technology that sometimes makes employees feel like they need to be available to work 24/7.
It’s important to talk with your manager if you have more work than you can handle so you can find ways to keep your workload at a manageable level while meeting your organization’s needs.
Even if you have a great relationship with your manager, you may hesitate to bring up valid concerns about your workload. Here are some common reasons why:
- You don’t want to sound like a complainer.
- You know that your co-workers’ workloads have also increased.
- You think it should be obvious to your manager that you have more work than you can handle comfortably.
- You hope the problem will go away on its own when the work crunch has passed.
Feelings like these are natural, but your manager needs to know if you have more work than you can handle. They may have ideas on how to ease the burden on you while making sure that all the necessary work gets done.
Read the full blog post.
No matter how small or severe the stressor, your body responds in the same way.
This leads to a rise in heart rate and blood pressure and, in turn, changes to almost every bodily system. This includes the immune system, digestive system, and brain.
Cortisol “can be beneficial in some circumstances, such as when it motivates you to complete your work on time,” notes Dr. Patricia Celan, a psychiatry resident at Canada’s Dalhousie University.
“Cortisol gets toxic in high doses over a chronic period of time,” Celan explains, adding that this is what leads to serious health issues.
To learn more and explore strategies to deal, read the full article.
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