If you’re an Isla, Siobhan, Xiaoping or Quvenzhané, you may be encountering this persistently annoying problem.
Perhaps the trickiest thing about micro-aggressions is that they are embedded in our society, sometimes both in our personal lives and work lives. They often slip into people’s minds and words without them being aware of their impact. Sometimes, even those who we respect and have good intentions make mistakes and do not realize impacts of careless remarks. Dealing with these situations can be tough. Here are some suggestions of how to respond in such scenarios:
- Pause: Take some time to reflect and ask for clarification if necessary. Give yourself time to figure out how to proceed.
- Examine your assumptions: Getting defensive usually results in an argument. Consider the other side, and try to make your fixed mindset into a growth mindset. Sometimes intended meanings can be lost in translation.
- Cut some slack: When someone offends us, we usually think that it’s a reflection of their character. It may be worth giving them the benefit of the doubt. Maybe they have something going on in their lives that made them lash out.
- Share the impact: Help the person understand how they made you feel. Some good ways to respond could be: “You may not have realized, but….” “This was likely not your intent….”
- Share another perspective: Saying “That’s not always right” is much better for conversation and less defensive-sounding than saying “That’s wrong”. Try saying “I really don’t agree with that.” or “Another way of looking at this is….” or “How I interpreted what you said is…”
Trans and Two-Spirit Realities: Beyond cultural representation
January 30, 2017
4:00 – 6:00 p.m.
Life Sciences Centre, Psychology Wing, Room 5260
Presented by the Gender and Women’s Studies Program
Sponsored by the Department of Philosophy, the Department of Political Science, and Dalhousie University’s “Work Well” strategy
Dr. Dan Irving (Carleton)
Depressed Economies: Trans* Un/deremployment, Affective Labour and Mobilizing Emotional Justice
Dr. Stephanie Kapusta (Dalhousie)
‘Ask me my pronoun use’: Feminism and Thinking About Gender Autonomy
Dr. Alexandre Baril (Dalhousie)
Rethinking Consent for Trans Representations in Media
Dr. Margaret Robinson (Dalhousie)
Two-Spirit Gender Identity
“Life will be hard, but anything is possible.”
Reflect on your own views as you hear those of this boy: https://youtu.be/jTNTWZLdypM
Dr. Afua Cooper, THE JAMES ROBINSON JOHNSTON CHAIR IN BLACK CANADIAN STUDIES presents
2013-2014 DISTINGUISHED LECTURE SERIES
DR. CAROL B. DUNCAN
“RELIGION, MULTICULTURALISM AND AFRICAN-CANADIAN IDENTITY”
Thursday, October 24 – 7:00 pm
Room 3156, Dentistry Building
Carol B. Duncan, PhD (Sociology, York University) is Associate Professor and Chair of the Department of Religion and Culture at Wilfrid Laurier University. Professor Duncan is co-author of Black Religious Studies: An Introduction and author of This Spot of Ground: Spiritual Baptists in Toronto. She consulted on, and appears in, the award-winning 2004 Vision TV documentary, Seeking Salvation: A History of the Black Church in Canada. Her areas of research interest include Caribbean religions, the African Diaspora, Caribbean immigration to North America and religion and popular culture.